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How to Cope with the Sudden Loss of a Loved One

In this article, we’ll talk through some coping mechanisms with losing a loved one suddenly in life.

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When you lose a loved one suddenly it is devastation. Greif is a powerful emotion, and it can be hard to move forward and go about your life when someone that you love is gone. 

You may be responsible for ensuring your loved ones affairs are in order, organise the funeral, notify electrical providers, execute their Will or in some cases speak to fatal claims solicitors. All of this can be incredibly overwhelming.

Coping with the death of a loved one will always be a challenge and many people don’t want to move on or struggle to manage this change in their life. However, during this difficult period of your life there a few things you can try to help you manage your grief.

Here are several ways you can learn how to cope with the death of a loved one… 

Don’t Rush Your Grief 

Everybody griefs at their own pace and you shouldn’t try to force yourself to move on before you are ready.

There are so many complex and powerful emotions involved when you lose a loved one suddenly. You may be in shock and have not had time to say goodbye or process the situation.

It’s quite common to feel numb during this difficult period or even guilty over things like an unresolved issue. Taking the time to truly work through your emotions and find your own way to grieve your loved one is the best way to cope after a death.

Be Involved

It can be easy to want to avoid rituals like attending memorial services and of course these types of events are incredibly difficult. However, after losing someone you loved in a sudden manner, gathering with the other people who loved them is a great way of reminding yourself that you’re not alone in your grief.

Things like funerals are a good way to hear stories about the deceased from those who knew them best, and to find comfort in the fact that they were loved. It can help you to accept a sudden loss if it hasn’t completely suncken in.

If you have been asked to help organise the funeral, consider tailoring the arrangements to honor the unique beliefs and values of the departed loved one. For example, aquamation is an eco-friendly alternative to traditional cremation and is a great way to honor your loved ones’ commitment to environmental conservation.

Share Your Feelings with Others

The death of a loved one can be overwhelming and you may be feeling a massive range of emotions like anger, sadness, anxiety, fear and stress. Talking to the people around you about how you are feeling can be a great way to process these emotions. You will probably find that others are feeling the same way you are.

However, not everyone will want to talk about their feelings and that’s ok. Just be aware that it is ok to talk to the people who love and will support you. 

Preserve Your Memories of the Deceased

A good way to cope with the sudden loss of a loved one is by preserving their memory. This can be a great way to feel closure and actively do something to help you remember them as you move forward in life. You can preserve the memory in many different and unique ways to suit you. There are countless sentimental ideas out there, for example, you could consider getting your loved ones’ ashes preserved forever in a diamond ring or necklace, and turn their ashes to jewels so you can carry them with you everywhere, every day. This is only the beginning, here are just a few of the ideas you can consider:

  • Plant a tree 
  • Raise money for a charity 
  • Create a box of memories 
  • Write them letters 
  • Light a candle
  • Dedicate a bench or plaque to them

Look After Yourself

When you are grieving it can be easy to stop taking care of yourself, especially if the death of your loved one was unexpected.  However, taking care of yourself is important and can help you to cope with your grief. 

Try and get enough rest, eat regularly, and do some exercise. This will not only help you physically but also mentally. Grief can take a physical toll and many people use things like alcohol to cope, this however is not a healthy way of processing your grief.

Try Journaling

Starting a journal can be a great way outlet for your emotions. It can be freeing to be able to get all of your emotions and feeling out one to a page, and this can help you acknowledge thing that maybe you weren’t aware of before.

Ask yourself questions like…

  • How am I feeling today?
  • What would I to say to my lost loved one?
  • What is easier than yesterday?

Find support from others

Whether it is from your family, friends or strangers finding support during this difficult time can be a great way to help you cope with the loss of a loved one.

It takes time to adapt after the death of someone close to you but doing things like joining a support group, speaking to a grief counsellor, therapist or other professional, can help you to manage your overwhelming emotions.

The death of a loved one can cause people anxiety and depression so its important that there are people around you who can sympathise, share their own experiences and help you work through your emotions at your own pace. 

Please be advised that this article is for general informational purposes onlyBe sure to consult a grief counsellor or therapist if you are struggling with the loss of a lovedWe are not liable for risks or issues associated with using or acting upon the information on this site.