Whatever kind of relationships you have in your life, one thing is for certain: you want them to be as strong as possible, and to last as long as possible. This is something that can actually be achieved, or at least you can make it more likely to happen, by following along with a few particular things. In this post, we are going to look in some detail at what you can do to keep relationships in your life going strong, and therefore ensure that you are living a happier and more fulfilling life in general.
There are always going to be things that annoy or upset you about the other person, and the sooner you get to grips with that and accept it, the better. Of course, this is not always easy to do, but as long as you are doing everything you can to try and improve how you approach this, you should find it makes a difference in the long run. That doesn’t mean accepting terrible behaviour, but it does mean that you should practice a general acceptance of who they are as a person, and what the nature of your relationship is like as two people. That’s important for any kind of relationship you might have in your life.
Keep High Standards
At the same time, you should allow yourself the luxury of having high standards with the people that you hang out with, and especially with your partner and other close relationships. This is just about realising that you do actually deserve a certain amount of respect, trust and so on – and so does the other person. When you make a point of keeping high standards, you are ensuring that you are both more likely to give as much as is necessary and thereby help to keep the relationship going as strong as you would hope it to. Whatever you do, don’t allow your principles to become obscured or ignored, as that is a sure sign that you have given up too much in the name of the other person, and ultimately that doesn’t serve either of you very well.
Schedule Me Time
In any kind of relationship, you are going to need your time away from that person. That is true of a partner, a parent, a friend, and anyone else. As such, you should make a point of actually scheduling some me time, and making sure that you stick to it, rather than giving in and giving away too much of your time to other people. Although it can be hard to get this balance right, after some trial and error you should find that it is easier, and it is going to be one of the most important things you have done in trying to improve the nature of your relationships in general. It will also help you in looking after your own mental health and general wellbeing a bit more as well.
Inject Some Humour
If there is one thing that always helps to keep people together through even the toughest situations, it’s humour. Although you might feel that humour has its place and time, actually you need to remember that it is a very normal, human response to things going badly, and if you can learn to use it in the right way, you might find that it makes all the difference in the world. In order to keep your relationships with your kids strong, finding and telling the best Dad jokes is always going to help. In your relationship with your partner, having a sense of humour is likely to keep things feeling alive and well. It’s more important than many people seem to think.
You will no doubt be aware that it is often advised to communicate openly if you want a relationship to be strong and healthy. This point really can’t be overstated. If you are trying to make some improvement to a relationship of any kind between any two or more people, you should consider making a point of talking more. The more that you all talk and the more openly you do so, the more you are going to be able to keep a strong relationship which you are all happy with. It’s all about feeling heard and listening to other people, and showing the respect that this implies wherever you can. If you are struggling to talk openly with someone, you might first need to look into why that might be, and then you can go from there.
It can be all too easy to be one thing this day and completely different another day. In one respect, that is a part of being human, and it’s something that we can each forgive in other people to some degree. But if you find that you are failing to be consistent at all, then that is probably going to be negatively affecting the relationship – and in an avoidable way, too. As far as possible, aim to be as consistent as you can in your relationships, in the way that you talk and act, and how you are with people. You should find that this is one of the most vital things you can do in trying to keep your relationships going strong, and it’s a basic way of showing the other person some decent level of respect as a human being.
Finally, a word on honesty. If you fail to be honest in relationships, people are really going to find it off-putting. This is true of all kinds of human relationships, and it’s something that you are going to want to work on if you tend to struggle to be honest. You will find the quality and depth of your relationships really improving greatly if you work on your levels of honesty, even if you find that hard to do at first. It’s definitely worth it for what it will do to the relationships in your life, and how fast.